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Fibro Warrior of the Week

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Recently I was asked to be interviewed for the Fibro Warrior of the week feature on http://fibrodaily.com/ ‘s website. I was honored to do it, Although I do not consider myself to be anything but an everyday person who just happens to have Fibromyalgia, but if any of my words can help another to live a little normally then I think I might have accomplished something. So here is the interview as printed..enjoy!

Fibro Warrior of the Week (#43)


Location: Hanson, Massachusetts, USA

Twitter: Fibro News
@Fibromen

Mantra: Being Irish, I have an abiding sense of tragedy which sustains me through temporary periods of joy.—
W.B. Yeats

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Obama Care, Just what we all needed, right?

I don’t know if I ever mentioned that I live in Massachusetts, USA. I am disabled and on a very limited income but I have been fortunate that with Mitt Romney signing in our comprehensive health care insurance system, I was able to obtain a quality plan for a very modest payment. This plan has paid for all of my past surgeries, tests, doctors, pharmacies during the last 6 years. This included my c2-c5 fusion at a prestigious hospital done by a top surgeon with little wait time. My co-pays have been as high as $5.00 for brand name drugs and doctor visits. A plan as good as any major health provider!
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Marijuana is gaining popularity

Marijuana bills are being passed all over the country!! I am proud to say that here in Massachusetts we have finally gotten a medicinal bill passed. On the downside, we are a commonwealth not a state and this means that our beloved (lol) politicians can simply ignore the vote as they have done in the past on other bills. Continue reading

Gabapentin for chronic neuropathic pain and fibromyalgia in adults

First published: March 16, 2011; This version published: 2011; Review content assessed as up-to-date: February 15, 2011.

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Antiepileptic drugs like gabapentin are commonly used for treating neuropathic pain, usually defined as pain due to damage to nerves. This would include postherpetic neuralgia (persistent pain experienced in an area previously affected by shingles), painful complications of diabetes, nerve injury pain, phantom limb pain, fibromyalgia and trigeminal neuralgia. This type of pain can be severe and long‐lasting, is associated with lack of sleep, fatigue, and depression, and a reduced quality of life. Continue reading

This entry is part of a series, my fibro»

Good morning everyone! I’ve decieded to change the format of this blog. I am going to get selfish and make it about me. The heck with trying to keep content fresh in order to attact those who may click on an add and help support me. Sorry I do need the income, but enough of that.
As many know I am one of the few men with fibro, I believe there are maybe a million more that just don’t want to acknowledge it. I understand why and as I am not a football or sports figure, I cannot influence anyone. I am just your average guy.

In todays episode we find Bob sitting at his keyboard cursing the pain in his hands, How can I type with all this pain? I have already taken my morning 9 different meds plus my get out of bed 10 mg Oxycontin with 1/2 10/325mg percoset. Those 2 I take 20 minutes before trying to get out of bed. Hope we never have another fire :) Continue reading

Bob’s Fibromyalgia chapter 8

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I last left off, getting ready for bypass surgery. I didn’t know if I would be back to finish this story but I am glad to say I am. According to my doctor, the surgery went very well and my recovery was fast. This he said, was because I was young and strong. Well I was not going to argue about the strong part. I have to admit the pain was not as bad as I thought it would be, or was I just so use to pain? Sure coughing was a nightmare of instant pain but it subsided quickly, yet the aches in my arms and legs did not go away.

After six weeks of being confined to a chair in my house, I was sent to rehab 3 times a week. It was painful doing the exercises but I found that I had less leg pain at night and less restless leg symptoms. At least there was some benefit to the pain of exercising other than rebuilding my stamina. Unfortunately that only lasted 2 months and I was ushered out. Left alone to continue without any machines or even a sidewalk to walk on. I found myself doing less and less exercising every day.

Although I was back to working everyday, It is hard to stay awake or to focus on anything for long. I believe that the exercise was helping but I hate walking on the side of the road. A treadmill was to be brought in for me but that has yet to happen and it has only been 4 months. Everyone always has something else they need to do. Its ok I am no longer important, as a fibro suffer I barely exist in other peoples eyes.

Its funny, I received attention and sympathy when I had open heart surgery, but after a few months I was cured of that! so no more consideration just for the Fibro!

Well at this point I am about finished writing, I am scheduled for disc removal from my neck in a few weeks so If I am not paralized from it I shall return to update this story.. Is it me, or have I lost my optimism?? Later

Men are also fibromyalgia patients

WASHINGTON, Aug. 21 (UPI) — The chronic pain syndrome fibromyalgia, which most often occurs in women, can also affect men — not only as patients, but as caregivers, U.S. researchers say.

“Although 10 percent to 20 percent of fibromyalgia patients are males, few scientific studies have been done in this population,” Lynne Matallana of the National Fibromyalgia Association says in a statement.

The National Fibromyalgia Association and the American Pain Foundation are joining with the Men’s Health Network in conducting an online survey. Continue reading

Men with Fibromyalgia

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For generations women had a tough time convincing doctors to take them seriously for many medical conditions, especially Fibromyalgia. Women have been called hysterical and told to curtail their active imaginations. However, men with Fibromyalgia are
dealing with an entirely different issue; they just don’t talk about it. Can you blame men for not coming forward with a woman’s disease when she is being told that it’s all in her head?

Now, let me tell you a little about this serious syndrome for both men and woman. Not necessarily the facts the doctors give you, but how the sufferers perceive it. Do you remember the flu that kept you from getting up out of bed for two weeks? Remember how difficult it was getting up out of bed and going to the bathroom? You were tired, uncomfortable, and ached all over, so you took medication to sleep. Now, I want you to imagine two things. First, you have no medication to ease the flu symptoms and second, the flu never goes away. In fact, Fibromyalgia does progress, not only does your pain and fatigue increase, other symptoms start appearing, regardless of whether you are a man or a woman.


With men, these flu-like symptoms manifest themselves a little differently at first because of gender roles and the physical differences between men and women. Men don’t go to doctors and often become stoic, hiding symptoms. Additionally, men have a tendency to isolate more than women and don’t want to be seen as whiners. They often wait until they can’t function at all before seeking medical attention. Fibromyalgia is sometimes called the invisible disability and for men this is especially true. I talked to Ron Mesic, Michigan, who began suffering with fibromyalgia as a teen. Ron said, “I seriously suspect that when I started seeking help, the prevailing attitude of medical professionals was that men should be tough, and importantly – modern medicine doesn’t cure much, they just make the patient comfortable while the body cures itself.”

A letter from the Knights of Fibromyalgia

written by Brady, aka PizzaMan242

Suddenly, in the middle of doing some small task, sharp shooting pains begin in your chest that start traveling down your arm and it is very hard to breathe. Your first thought is a heart attack. You go to the ER and they say you are fine, it is nothing. The next day or a week later it happens again. Again they say you are fine but this time they give you a referral to a psychiatrist. Now they think you are imagining the pain, yet you know it is very real. What do you do? There is always a psychological aspect to the experience of pain, but this does not necessarily mean that the source of the pain is rooted in the psyche.

What I have just described is a very common Fibromyalgia flare up. Yet they only look at you as if you have a screw loose. They do not even check to see if it is Fibromyalgia. They look at your heart and other physical problems that could cause this pain but find nothing. They could perform a simple pressure test to eliminate or confirm Fibromyalgia but you must first navigate a maze of other tests.

Doctors and others in the professional fields label us as depressive personalities and prescribe anti depressants, then are confused when they do not have the desired effect. Probably because at the root we are not depressed, yet. You begin to doubt the doctors and yourself. They say they cannot cure it, and they can only treat some of the symptoms with a limited degree of success.

Your chest still hurts, you can hardly breathe, your shoulders hurt and the pain is traveling down your arms to your hands. Your hands are slightly swollen and discolored, your fingers are numb, your legs are killing you and there is a burning sensation in them. The abdomen is sore to touch, the bowels are churning, and it feels as if you have been shot through the middle with a rocket. Then when we ask for something for the pain, because by now it has become a constant pain gnawing at your very being. Then they label you a drug addict and believe you are faking the pain to get drugs. Now they think we are just in it for the drugs and if they do give you something for the pain. Then the DEA starts watching your doctor’s prescriptions, making the doctor afraid to prescribe more potent medications.

What do we do then? We try to describe it for our doctors and they in turn tell us we are not active enough, we are depressed, so exercise and a mood change should straighten you out. You follow the doctor’s and therapist’s directions completely, yet when all these things are done you are still in pain only it has gotten worse. You are now almost begging for something to kill the pain. Instead you are given massage therapy, heat therapy and maybe if your lucky pool therapy. None of these will work. Only the pool therapy will give you temporary relief, with it’s blood warm waters and gentle exercises. Yet even this fails, you find yourself going into a flair as soon as your body cools down. At each different therapy you are greeted with the following. Oh no problem I have seen people come in here in wheelchairs and walk out on their own two feet. Wow, you think this must be the one. They have such high success rate, But sadly with each one we see an escalation of the pain. No matter how good the treatments feel, the effects are only temporary and your back in the same old routine of pain and exhaustion.

A simple pressure test on the back and shoulders will confirm the presence of an invisible serious illness called Fibromyalgia. Still, most sufferers go to many doctors and go for years without a diagnosis. Why?

We have to pay thousands of dollars we cannot afford for tests to eliminate other possibilities. Why does it take so long, everyone knows the test? Why can’t they confirm it? Are they afraid of us because they cannot cure us? Well are they?

For the medical community this disease is a mystery. No one knows what triggers it or where it is in the body, they have their theories but nothing conclusive. Many doctors refuse to believe that it exists since it lacks that evidence. Others believe but do not want to treat it because there is no clear answer. Yet they are the ones we must turn to and put our trust in, only to leave us just hanging. Why?

Again it is because they do not know the why, how, or where to begin. They only know that we are in pain and we tend not to exercise because it causes even greater pain. Nevertheless, we must exercise. So we do so we can still stand and walk, We know we must do that much, yet they want more so we try, why? Because that is what they tell us to do. Some even believe that the more we exercise the better the chance is to be cured. The only thing they have right is that we do need to exercise although it hurts, we just have to learn to pace at our own individual level. There is no cure or even hope of major relief.

Searching for someone we can get to help us turns into a full time job. Hundreds of dollars are spent on prescribed drugs and therapies that do not help. Sometimes they are damaging, causing side effects that build until we become intolerant of most drugs and even just over stretching a little one time, can set someone back for months.

No money is being spent to research a cure, and no panel has been formed to study the effects of fibromyalgia. It is almost as if we are Lepers, banned to living a nightmare existence from which there is no escape.

The pain wakes you every two hours through the night and the days are spent in a barely functional fog. You do not feel safe to drive and even the short ride to the doctor with a friend driving increases the pain. Then only when the overwhelming tiredness consumes you. It is the same as always, 3:00 o’clock in the morning. Only to sleep for 2-4 hours, more if your very lucky.

Fibromyalgia remains a very devastating but invisible disease. It is debilitating because when we try to do anything we are in fact hurting ourselves because our muscles cannot heal themselves. Instead we are risking triggering a flare up that could last a day or even a month. Some are bedridden by the effects of this disease. Unable to do the simplest of tasks. Some take the antidepressants and after years of taking them suddenly start thinking that suicide is in fact a really good option, and sadly some have taken that course. May their souls find peace.

Everyone says that you look fine. Your employer, if you are still able to work at all, questions why you can barely do anything and then implies that you are slacking on the duties you once could do without a problem.

How can something that cannot be seen or found in a x-ray or a blood test be so devastating? We do not know. We just know that we are in pain and no one wants to help. Those who are willing to try to help are few and far between. Even then we are forced to weed through the charlatans selling their Snake Oil Cures. That is how rare it is to find a doctor who really wants to try to understand and help you. Yet even he cannot cure you or even lessen your pain.

We who suffer from this disease wonder when somebody will take notice that there is not a few of us but millions. Yes, I said millions. They can treat some of us with a couple of Advil but there are those among us who take Morphine and it does not stop the pain. The medical community only sees the ones who are getting by taking Advil and walking for 30 minutes or more per day. Some of us cannot walk for 10 minutes without a break. Some are even worse.

You stand to lose your wife, husband, family, career and your home, because this disease does not allow you to function enough to take care of all these things, to protect them as you always did before.

Your friends do not want to be around someone who is constantly sick and cannot go out to do things. No single person could imagine the multitude of sordid symptoms, let alone millions of people from all over the country and world with identical symptoms. Surely no one would choose to live like this.

We call on you to help us draw attention to this. We are tired of being ignored, and watching those among us who we call friends deteriorate further and die, but not from Fibromyalgia. No, that is not the killer, it just makes you wish you were dead. No the drugs that we take have a cumulative effect so that we get diabetes, hypertension, kidney disease, all caused by taking the wrong drugs but they cannot tell us what the correct drugs are. Nor will they admit that the drugs you have been taking are the root cause to your more mundane problems.

Please do not let another one of us fall by the wayside because we are not a majority and Fibromyalgia is a little known disease that is “all in their head” until the devastating effects strike you personally.

Acute pain protects life, Chronic pain destroys it.” Always remember this.

We the Knights of Fibromyalgia stand before you and ask there be an accounting, a task has been set before you. Are you willing to pick up the sword and aid us in our fight for recognition.

Why do we call ourselves Knights, because like the Knights of old we too are given a formidable task. The task to finally gain recognition for our cause. Our swords are our words, our steeds are our computers as we spread our cause from one end of the globe to the other. We must not fail.
We are the Knights of Fibromyalgia!

Men with Fibro STEVE’S STORY

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Courtesy of Dominie Bush

Here is some of what I have learned as a man from my own
experience with CFIDS/FMS, life, suffering and shame.

Who can know the pain and suffering one must endure?
When misunderstood by those who have no time,
to account for their own infirmity and lack of understanding.

There was One who bore all of our diseases, faults, shortcomings
and weaknesses. He understands. The One who was rejected,
so that we might know acceptance. Hated that we may be loved.
Reviled so we could be blessed. Had compassion for those who
murdered Him.

Pray for Mercy upon all those who would judge, having so far
been spared the pain themselves, knowing not what they inflict.
So fulfiling our own calling, that we might use that which was
meant for evil, rather to be turned back and used for good
instead. As One has already done for us in loving kindness.

This is why my loud cry is always for Grace!

Courtesy of Dominie Bush